Knowing It vs Feeling It

Why That First Feeling Matters

Here’s something I hadn’t given a lot of thought to until recently.

There’s a big difference between knowing something and feeling it.

I’ve been having some Advanced Belief Coding® recently as part of my accreditation process, and today’s session really drove this home.

It centred around some horrible things that were said to me as a teenager.  Mean comments. Cruel words. From a bully that hit hard at the time.

The interesting thing is, I honestly thought I’d already worked through all of that in coaching.

And to be fair, I had.

Coaching was amazing, I’ve processed a lot of negative experiences. I worked on acceptance.  Forgiveness. I’ve reframed it. I can tell you the story and walk myself through it rationally.

But what today’s session reminded me is this…

Even though those things were said to me in childhood and during my teenage years, when someone says something unkind to me now, which, thankfully, is rare, I still have a split second where I feel it.

It’s a visceral reaction.

Surprise. Embarrassment. Hurt. Anger.

All in a heartbeat.

Then my logical brain kicks in. I see it for what it is. I get to choose how I respond.

But that first feeling?

That was coming from somewhere deeper.

From the version of me we worked on today, who was called fat and ugly. From the younger me who still holds the sting, even though I now know better.

And that’s the part Belief Coding® is helping me shift.

Not just the thoughts, but the emotional imprint.

Not just what I know, but what I feel and then react from.

Coaching gave me awareness and choice.

Mindfulness helps me pause and breathe.

But sometimes, something still lingers.

And when it does, it’s often time to go deeper into the subconscious.

The sting has now been taken from that tail, which means the next time someone says something feelings and actions will be different.

That’s why I am creating The Transform and Rise Membership.   Because growth isn’t one-dimensional. It’s layered. So I am including it all, no gatekeeping.  Healing Reiki, Coaching, Mindfulness, and, when needed, the subconscious work too.

If something’s still niggling, even after all the work you’ve done, you’re not broken.  You might just be ready to peel back the next layer.

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[Comic with girl thinking “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” while words like “stupid,” “ugly,” and “loser” fly toward her. Second panel shows girl on ground thinking “Well that’s bullshit” with words “stupid,” “ugly,” “worthless.”]