Becoming a change maker in your own life, even when you feel overwhelmed and tired as hell

Could be just my belief but there comes a moment in every woman’s life (and probably guys too I am just speaking from my experience) where she looks around and thinks, This is not quite the life I imagined… and I am not sure how to change it.

Spending  years being the responsible one, the strong one, the fixer, the peacekeeper, the safe pair of hands.  The go to for when everyone elses shit has hit the fan.

A whole identity built on holding everything together.

She's tired. She's overwhelmed. She feels stuck somewhere between who she used to be and who she secretly wants to become.  But yet also realises there is nothing desperately wrong with her life it is just a but 'Meh'

We can I stay in the 'Meh' live out the day to days ooor this is the calling... the beginning something beautiful...of becoming a change maker in your own life.

You do not need a personality transplant you need permission to evolve

I am surely not the only one who has had the thought 'What's wrong with me?' That moment where you think 'maybe I really haven't got my shit together like I thought'.  

Being a change maker doesn't necessarily mean burning your life down, getting that divorce, walking out from the job.  Tempting as it might be unless it is a necessity of course for your greatest good.  It could just mean gently upgrading the internal system that guides your choices, your thoughts, your feelings, your actions.

It is doing identity work. Becoming a self leadership. Choosing to stop abandoning yourself and putting yourself at the bottom of the pile for once.  Taking unfettered ownership of your life and taking steps towards where you really want to be.

Change begins with one powerful question

Not the current you who feels more tired than a clapped out pigeon.  Not the overwhelmed you who can't see the wood for the trees through the brain fog.  Not the version of you who 'thinks' self care is selfish.

The version of you who trusts herself. The energetic vibrant you?   The version who knows she is allowed to take up space?  The one who is in the dream job?, the dream relationship? etc

This question alone begins rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.

Three signs you are ready to become a change maker

Becoming a change maker is not about force it's about awareness

Often we think change has to be hard.  That we have to force ourselves with discipline and willpower.  I say a huge 'NO' to that.  All it does is puts pressure on ourselves in an already emotional situation.  It sets of our defences, spikes our cortisol and brings on overwhelm quicker than you can say 'brain fog'.

A tiny shift in direction you want to go and a small adjustment in how you treat yourself is all you need to get started.  It could be a single boundary. A moment of deep self honesty. A decision to stop carrying things that drain your soul.

This is how the becoming starts and you can reinvent your life.  Gently, yet, powerfully.

Your infinite self is calling you forward

Your infinite self is already within you.  She is not waiting for you to have more time. She is not waiting for your life to stop being busy. She is not waiting for the perfect plan.

She is waiting for one thing. Your willingness to choose differently.

You do not need to be fearless. You just need to be available to your own growth.

And when you do that? Everything begins to shift around you.

This chapter of your life is a turning point and opportunity

This is a time of transition.  It is ok to want to expand.  It is OK that your desires are waking up. And it is OK for you to voice them outload (and even in company).  It is OK to want MORE!  Your inner change maker is ready to lead the way.

This is the moment where everything starts to make sense. 

Not because life gets easier but because you get clearer.

Are you ready?  Give me a hell yeah if so.