Why the Same Problems Keep Happening to You and How to Stop Them

Do you ever feel like your living in the film Groundhog Day? A life on repeat.  Sometimes looking from the outside in, thinking this looks familiar.  

Every day similar.  Get up... go to work.. come home do chore... get up... go to work you get the picture.

You find yourself staring at the ceiling at 4 AM wondering how on earth you ended up here.

Maybe you're sick of your partner or the kids who doesn't listen to a word you say.

Perhaps you feel like your boss is taking complete advantage of your good nature.

Maybe it's simply that deeply familiar feeling of utter exhaustion after saying yes to everyone else and ignoring your own needs.

Or you have business wondering why that blog post is not writing itself (cough cough)

It feels incredibly frustrating and you might even start to think you're genuinely cursed.

I promise you aren't cursed by the way..

You're just caught in a pattern.

Why Patterns Are Never Random

When life be lifing we absolutely love to say things like 'that's just the way life is', we can also love to blame the universe and everything in between for what feels like a run of bad luck, a shit storm of drama or the delights we can feel on Mondays.

It's much easier to point the finger away from us, so we don't have to handle it or worse take a long look in the mirror.

But your behaviour and the results of that behaviour are consistent for a very good reason.

Your brain actually loves a loop.

It feels safe because it's familiar.

Even if the outcome makes you completely miserable, your subconscious prefers the devil it knows.

This means you're part of the loop.

You aren't separate from it.

That might sting a little bit at first.

But it's actually the absolute best news you'll hear today.

If you're part of the loop, you have the power to break it.

Spotting The Threads Across Your Life

The tricky thing about patterns is they love to wear disguises.

A boundary issue at work often looks completely different to a boundary issue with your mother but underneath the surface, the driver is exactly the same.

You might be terrified of conflict.  You might deeply believe your worth is tied to how useful you are to other people.

Once you spot the core belief, you'll start seeing it everywhere.

When the pattern makes sense, change finally becomes possible.

Using The Triple A Way To Break Free

Stop fighting yourself.

Start investigating the pattern instead.

Here's how we do exactly that using my signature approach.

Your Very Next Step

You don't have to live the same year eighty million times and call it a life.

Grab a cup drink and a notebook.

Write down the one problem that keeps showing up for you.

Then ask yourself what role you're playing in keeping it alive.

Be gentle with yourself.

This is about curious investigation, not harsh judgment.

Ready to break the loop? Let's chat.